Speaking the Truth in Love

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easy angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love. ~ 1 Corinthians 13

   This is one of my favorite verses of all time and I had always thought of it more in terms of how you treat family, friends, and husband until recently. I know the verse is talking about loving others as Jesus has loved us, but recently I’ve had realized the importance of this verse in the bigger picture of things. As I mentioned in my last blog post I own a Pro-life page on FB and with it has come much opposition from friends, family members, and of course those who do not agree with our beliefs who come on the page to start trouble. Through this I’m having to learn how to show love in spite of opposition. It isn’t always easy because sometimes emotions try and take over with such a heavy and important subject as the sanctity of life. Of course, that is why God has given us His word to help us.

   When I started my Pro-life page and started posting about my beliefs as a Pro-life christian woman I expected opposition from those who don’t share those beliefs. However, to see so much opposition and argueing within the Pro-life movement was surprising to me. Maybe that makes me naive since I know that everyone is different and there are many different religions, beliefs, and backgrounds surrounding the Pro-life movement as a whole. Although, I didn’t expect that when we started posting about showing post-abortive women compassion that we would have so many who were opposed to it. I am so disappointed to find such a lack of compassion for those women. I know that these women had an abortion, which clearly killed their baby and some may not even feel remorse about it. I know that abortion is murder and I know that it is a sin. However, we all have sinned and fall short. What these women need is prayer and to be shown the love of Jesus. You can speak the truth in love. One of the issues we brought up on the page was that post abortive women should not be called names such as; murderer. Many people commented on this saying things such as; “Why not. that’s what they are?” etc. They basically missed the point of the post entirely. We weren’t saying that abortion wasn’t murder. We were saying that post-abortive women should be shown the love of Jesus and not have names thrown at them. They should be shown the same love and compassion that God has shown us despite our many sins. I truly believe that noone will be won over to the saving grace of Jesus by name calling and pointing fingers, but by being shown the love of Jesus by those who call themselves His followers. Yes, the truth should be spoken and should not be sugar coated, but showing judgement and condemnation is not the way to do it. I bet if any one of us had someone point their finger at us and call us by the sins we have commited in our lives we would get defensive and close our hearts to anything else that person had to say. How can we expect a post-abortive woman or someone who isn’t a christian to react any different? That is why I feel so disappointed in seeing the lack of compassion among Pro-life christians. We should not be a “resounding gong” or a “clanging symbol”, we should be patient, kind, keeping no records of wrong, and not easily angered. We should not be prideful and we should not dishonor others. That is how this verse pertains to the bigger picture even outside of our interactions with our family and friends. We are to show true love, the love of Jesus, to everyone…even those who are still living in sin. Even those who sin in a way we particulary disapprove of. It isn’t about us….it’s about Jesus and it’s about how much He loves each one of us. Jesus loves that post-abortive woman just as much as He loves you! He wants that person to be saved just as much as He wanted you to be saved. Jesus tells us to preach the good news to others so that they may be saved. That is our purpose! It isn’t our purpose to judge and condemn, but to bring those who are lost to Jesus! To do that we must show them the love and compassion Jesus has shown us. So let us not be resounding gongs or clanging symbols who shout out condemantion and judgement at people who sin differently then we do, but be a light in this lost world by showing the world the love spoken of in 1 Corinthians 13!

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Love in Christ,

Tiffany

A Little About Me to start out with….

Hello, everyone! Welcome to my blog and my first blog post! I hope that you enjoy following this blog! I figured that I should start it out by telling everyone a little about myself and why I decided to start a blog. So here goes….

I am a non-denominational Christian woman who was raised in a Christian home and made the choice to follow Jesus for myself at the age of 13. This was the best decision I have ever made in my life, but the road has had its bumps along the way. At age 16 I was surprised with the news that my parents were getting a divorce. This news hit me pretty hard because I had seen many friends of mine parents split up, but I had always thought that wouldn’t happen to mine. So it was like a big, scary, reality check for me. When my parents divorced I moved with my dad and two younger brothers to Texas where a lot of his side of the family lives. It was there that I became best friends with some of my cousins and later with some other great people. I had good and bad experiences as well as made bad and good decisions throughout my teen/young adult years and some I am not proud of, but one thing that was always evident was that God never let me go. I might not have been behaving the way He would have wanted me to, but He was always with me and He protected me through it all. Since I was a little girl I had always wanted to meet the man God had for me, get married, and have kids and I spent much of my teen/young adult life being impatient and seeking this for myself. As a pre-teen I would write letters to my future husband and as a teen/young adult I looked for love in all the wrong places. Until one day I stopped looking and God brough him into my life. It was in Texas that I actually met my husband (online on MySpace no doubt) who was and still is in the military. Our dating period wasn’t too long, but we had a year-long engagement in which he lived in MD while I lived in TX. It definitely wasn’t easy, but we wanted to do things right and wait to live together until we were married. Looking back I think this was good “practice” for married life with a military man. August 18, 2007 I married my best friend and love of my life and moved with him to MD and never looked back. We have lived in a couple different places now, we have been blessed with two handsome boys, and have gone through 3 deployments now. I wouldn’t trade my family for anything and I’m so thankful to God for his blessings!

Now on to why I chose to start this blog….

As a child and teen I used to love to write. I would sit down and just write for hours and this blog is an attempt to recapture the joy I felt in writing. Writing has been a great outlet for me and a way to speak about the things I’m passionate about. I plan on writing about my passions and experiences as a military wife, as a mother, as a christian, and as a Pro-life no exceptions advocate. However, I give God the reigns and will be writing about whatever God leads me to write. I want to recapture my love of writing, but I also want this blog to be used by God to reach people and to be a ministry to those who need it. I have two pages on Facebook about two of my passions and that is being a military wife and being Pro-life. I started the military wife page to be an encouragement and blessing to others and that is what I hope this blog will be for many. I truly appreciate you reading my first post and hope that you will stick around for others in the future. God bless you all!

Love in Christ,

Tiffany

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My amazing Husband and me!